Bleeding Love: LGBT Adversity Near and Far

I'm pissed off.

Correction:  I’m fucking pissed off.

As many of you are aware the Russian government is severely anti-LGBT. This has led to protests and riots throughout the country. In the course of such protests many LGBT people and allies have suffered physical and mental harm. This is a human rights issue and has reached audiences around the world. I know no country/nation-state is perfect in any regards but it sickens me to think an event such as The Olympics (which is meant to bring the countries of the world together) is being held in a place that is actively participating in the destruction of my LGBT brothers and sisters.

Recently Human Rights Watch has released a video (watch with caution please) that showcases many acts of violence which have happened in recent months in Russia to LGBT people. In it we are shown homosexual men who have been abducted, humiliation, tortured, raped, and (presumably) murdered. These acts were recorded by the perpetrators and posted on sites such as YouTube.

I hurts me deeply to watch this video where my brothers were treated with such disrespect and subjected to acts of violence such as, but not limited to: verbal assaults, abduction, humiliation via stripping and cohesion, and in one case, forced to rape himself with a glass bottle. The images were unforgettable, disturbing and distressing.

I am thankful I have the privilege of living in a country where being a homosexual does not lead to such treatment. Or does it…

Even as of a few days ago a student at Centennial High School in Circle Pines, Minnesota came out as gay on Facebook. The next day he received several death threats. What the fuck is wrong with people. Sure, in the USA we can come out of the closest and have bars and pride-parades and get married and have kids and lead normal lives but to receive death threats is inexcusable.

I am of two minds and they are equal. Part of me wants to find all people who commit acts of violence, physical or otherwise, a give to them what they have dished out. What kind of mind sends death threats? What kind of person forces someone to rape themselves with a glass bottle? Who is the god-damned coward to send anonymous messages of hate via social networking sites? It’s not just YouTubers or celebrities who are being threated. It’s kids in high-school who have Tumblrs, as in a friend of mine who started receiving hate mail when her Tumblr was getting popular… and she’s just a teen-age woman (and yet that too is other issue).

Why do people send hate mail? Do they believe it will change anything? Death threats are a form of domestic terrorism and is a punishable, in certain cases, as in the one mentioned above, as a hate crime. Why do we do this to each other? I just don’t understand the reasoning behind it. This upsets me and makes me angry to the point of wanting to harm those who harm others. I’m simply being honest here.

And that’s where the other side of me steps in. We can’t fight fire with fire. Violence only begets more violence. I can only affect those around me by being kind and loving and accepting of others. And yet I cannot be accepting of a lifestyle that berates and degrades others. I cannot support an ideology that sees others as sinful for loving who they love, who express their gender in whatever fashion they see fits them.

How do I show love to the person who wishes I kill myself?
How do I show compassion towards those who want nothing but my suffering?
What do I do with anger inside of me that wants to be unleashed in very harmful and destructive ways?

How do I heal hearts (the ones that are broken and the ones that do the breaking).

My own heart goes out to everyone who has faced adversity. My soul has cried last night for my brothers and sisters all over the world who stare death in the face every day… simply by being who they are, loving who they do, grasping at empowerment/self-expression/self-actualization.  My body wants to react, to protect, to exact vengeance in the name of the slain.

How do I honor these opposing and powerful desires for vengeance and peace?

Ultimately all I feel I can do right now is draw attention to the problem and illuminate (to bare light upon) the situation.

Pray for those in need. Support your children, your friends and family, your coworkers by accepting them and loving them and asking them how they are feeling? Tell them you love them. Tell them it will get better. Show to those still in the closet the world isn’t full of haters and rapists and cowards. My smallest wish there was that was more I could do to stop these atrocities.

Radical: A Returning to the Root

Whenever a tragic event transpires because of an individual’s actions such as the recent Boston Marathon bombing or the terrorist attracts of September 11th 2001 or even a protest held by the Westboro Baptist Church, we tend to talk of these people/groups as radical. We also label them as extremists. Which one is it? Are all radicals extremists as well? Now these two words are different and yet we use them as if they were interchangeable and I’m not too certain they can be used so fluidly. I want to examine these words and use them in right and appropriate ways.* 

The word radical comes from the Latin radix meaning root. This means that when something is radical it is relating to the root or base. Roots are important. They dig deep, the spread into the dark and find things which have been lost. They discover new areas. They also provide nourishment to the rest of the plant.

I have studied many so-called radical groups as a part of my undergrad education. Generally radical groups, or more commonly known as separatist groups, split off from the main-stream because they feel a calling to go deeper (notice I didn’t use extreme though I grammatically could have). Political radicals can be seen all over the spectrum. When Charlotte Bunch and other separatist feminist of the early 1970’s started The Furies Collective, they went in search of political refuge, acceptance, the idea of woman, what it means to be a lesbian just to name a few. They dug deep into the ideas of what it meant to be a woman, where the political process of America was headed, and how to change the culture around them. Marilyn Frye, theorist and lesbian feminist philosopher, says that “A separatist practices separation consciously, systematically, and probably more generally than the others, and advocates thorough and “broadspectrum” separation as part of the conscious strategy of liberation”. In short, she sees a separatist, and I would correlate this with a radical practice, as the willful exorcise of oneself from a community in order to liberate, or free, the self. (Frye) They needed to separate themselves from the over-culture in order to really get into the heart of their experiences as women, as lesbians, and as members of democratic society.

When religious groups becomes radical they are often seeking a more interpersonal experience with the divine as their tradition sees it. This looks different depending on the religion, the tradition, and the power structure of that group. Radical Christians dive deep into the social well-being of their community bolstered by the exemplary life of Jesus. (Fisher 219) Nuns, monks, and hermits of all the worlds’ traditions are radical in that they want to feel their idea of the divine so much that the outside world must be left behind. In terms spiritual anatomy the 1st, 2nd, and 3rd Chakras slow down so the heart (4th), mind (5th), and crown (6th an 7th) may be fully open to the experience/imminence of the divine.(Myss) Siddhartha (Buddha) sat under a tree, Jesus went to the garden, Muhammad went to the mountain, Inanna left heaven and earth and went into the underworld where everything she had was taken from her.

And here is the other half of what it means to be a Radical. They must bring back what they learned and experienced to the community. I don’t know if it is the radical’s journey to stay radical forever or if there is a katabatic (to descend and return) cycle. Roots bring nutrition to the rest of the plant; same can be said for a radical person. Once the knowledge, experience, wisdom is found, it is the job of the Radical inform the community. Now wither or not the person with whom the Radical is in contact with is receptive of their message is not the point. The point is there is new wisdom to disperse. There are truths to be absorbed. The wisdom gets transported into the world and watered-down and altered which can disappoint/infuriate a radical. Thus, when faced with difficult and trying times, we humans and turn towards violent and iritic behaviors. I believe that is not the job of anyone, especially a radical, to use violent or corrosive force to disseminate their message. Not only does this give the whole community of which the radical is a part of a bad name but it negatively impacts the community in which we all live.

I hope I have opened your eyes to the idea that we use the label of radical far too often to describe people who act soul in destructive ways. I would say the amount of radicals who commit the hanus acts we hear about in the news is significantly less than we think. After examining the word radical and the whole would actually portray its characteristic, perhaps it is extremists, those who are on the limits of their community, who are the perpetrators of these great crimes. Maybe after reading this, and examining the groups you are a part of, you will find yourself a radical. What is calling you to dig deeper? What is calling you away from the over-culture and towards a more intense study? What lessons have you learned from being so close to a topic it calls in to question everything you’ve known to be true? What called you and you responded with such a fervent yes, every shred of rationality said to go forth? What lessons have you learned there in the deep?

NEXT WEEK: Extremist

*When was examine the words we are choosing to say we slow down and use a more prudent and judicious speech. This means we describe the word more accurately, view it more sharply, and are able to create stronger bonds i.e. our relationship to ourselves and to each other. Example: How do you describe yourself? What is the narrative you are saying about yourself? What do you so casually say you hate/like/want/love and how is that constructing how you view yourself/your actions? How do you label the world (other people, places, and events) and how does that help/hinder the way in which we move forward?

Bibliography

Fisher, Mary Pat. "Women in Christianity." Women in Religion. Upper Saddle River, NJ: Pearson Education, 2007. 188-233. Print.

Frye, Marilyn. "Some Reflections on Separatism and Power." Feminist Theory: A Reader. Ed. Wendy K. Kolmar and Frances Bartkowski. 3rd ed. New York: McGraw-Hill, 2010. 275-81. Print.

Myss, Caroline. The Language of Archetypes: Discover the Forces That Shape Your Destiny. Boulder, CO: Sounds True, 2006. Audio.